Q&A: How Can I Go Off Shyness?

Dear Juliette, I find it uneasy dating a lady. The fact is, I am shy. How can I go off shyness? My Dear Reader, I am no psychologist but it seems likely to me that shyness is a psychological issue that you can probably train yourself out of. It has been said that women find …

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The Stigma Attached To the Counter-Cultured/Alternative Woman

There is a certain stigma attached to women like me which I have been aware of for years but which was only explained to me with any smidgen of insight a few days ago. A very good male friend Sean explained to me while I was uttering annoyances about a recent suitor’s presumptuous remarks toward …

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The (Actual) Intimidated Boy Syndrome Theory – Written 2006, revised 2016

It took a few weeks to develop this theory because I guess I didn’t realize how rampant it was in my life and how simplistic and primitive the behaviour is until now. Generalizing is pretty easy when things seem to always turn out the same way but it wasn’t until recently that what I thought …

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Rules, Theories and Philosophies I Believe That You Should Believe About Dating, Friendships, Life and Love

impatience-final4.jpgThe etiquette and proper methods of attaining a woman like me. Starting with:

The Theories

Theories by definition, according to answers.com are:

  1. A set of statements or principles devised to explain a group of facts or phenomena, especially one that has been repeatedly tested or is widely accepted and can be used to make predictions about natural phenomena.
  2. The branch of a science or art consisting of its explanatory statements, accepted principles, and methods of analysis, as opposed to practice: a fine musician who had never studied theory.
  3. A set of theorems that constitute a systematic view of a branch of mathematics.
  4. Abstract reasoning; speculation: a decision based on experience rather than theory.
  5. A belief or principle that guides action or assists comprehension or judgment: staked out the house on the theory that criminals usually return to the scene of the crime.
  6. An assumption based on limited information or knowledge; a conjecture.

The Wavelength Theory                                                          2005

The Wavelength Theory rides on the same notion as finding people who are your “type”. But rather than dumbing it down to appearances, musical interest or what we do for a living, it is about being at a level of confidence, emotional and psychological maturity, and views on priorities. This became clear to me when I was meeting people I didn’t seem to have much in common with but who I found intensely interesting and easy to get along with. People who have common interests and/or problems with meeting people and identifying with the regular joes of the world tend to be on the same wavelength as me, because we think in the same margins of human equality. For example, I usually like people who complain about disrespectful or ignorant humans, but I’m not limited to it and it has nothing to do with the way we live other than maybe our upbringing.

The Wavelength has also to do with a feeling of being in a higher state of consciousness than most people. The state of consciousness is a notion of being true to oneself and standing by one’s convictions. It probably sounds pretentious, but they are in fact two very hard traits to find. I am often fooled into thinking I meet people on the wavelength and given my romantic aspirations, I often get excited too quickly and am sorely disappointed. But I think that glitch in my life has been rectified. I have been having issues in the past few years with instantly falling in love when I met someone who seemed to have the same kind of ideas as me about the world, and being completely disappointed when I realize it was all pretty much a sham. I realized that if I tell my ideas to people, they tend to agree with them because the ethics of how I see things are admirable and exciting to new people who are interested in me. Most people although find the ideas admirable, don’t actually live by them. So once this truth of their lack of conviction is revealed, it appears to me as a lie which is a blatant faux-pas in my Code of Ethics, hence the difficulty in finding equals.

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