Q&A: How Do I Get a Girl To Sleep With Me On the First Date?

Dear Juliette, How do I get a girl to sleep with me on the first date? My Dear Reader, I knew this was going to happen, so how appropriate for this to be the first question submitted…and frankly I am happy to address it so you can all ready my opinion on the subject. Since …

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The Ironic Plan: My Original Prologue For My Half-Written Book, Which I Cannot help But Aspire To Intend to Complete Through This Website

The Ironic Plan                                                           Written 2006, revised 2013   Unwavering Logic By Individual Circumstance   A book written about how difficult it is to write a book.   Specifically, this is about how hard it was to find …

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5. The Trial and Error/Attack Of Hickeyman: Yes, A Grown Man Who Gives Hickies and My GREAT Dismay In Other Behavioural Departments

The Trial: Hickeyman and I started talking on pof and it seemed as though we had quite a bit in common. He was living off of internet start-ups he had made successful with his knowledge of Internet Marketing, which by coincidence was exactly what I was beginning to research for this very website. He was …

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More Speculations Regarding Wavelengths and Abilities To Get Along With Humans

berlinI like the notion of slowly exposing my thoughts from several years before I became who i am now, the successful businesswoman. These ideas of mine are occasionally altered as time goes on but remain pretty much the same, probably with a new splash of lower standards due to so much failure. Haha

Written July 6, 2007, revised 2013

The wavelength theory is designed around the notion that there are other people around who match a certain suitability to me, intellectually and emotionally, as well as physically to some extent.

Romantic endeavors are where the physical suitability is most important, but also in most discoveries of people on the wavelength physical attraction has been present.

It seems reasonable to assume that less attractive people generally have a more difficult time getting along with more attractive people.

My speculation on this subject is proven by what I find as being the majority of people I befriend, being more attractive than not. I think this is due to a security in oneself and egotistical tendencies being matched.

It seems fair to assume that most “less attractive” people would potentially have issues with more attractive people for their lack of confidence. The expressions “stealing someone’s thunder” and “being outshined” have been used to describe the reasons why I believe myself to be a difficult candidate for friendship.

Numerous attempts at befriending girls have resulted mainly in failure for what I blame on insecurity. I am not competitive by nature, so the accusations of stealing thunder or outshining or whatever other weather-fueled clichés are false. It is them, not me.

It definitely seems reasonable from a male’s perspective as well where I’m concerned. It has been generalized in the past that a lot of men don’t bother with women they feel are out of their league, whereas men with exceptional self-confidence go for the gold.

So I suppose in essence it still boils down to the psychological emotional and intellectual suitability, and it is simply hit or miss that the physical attraction is paralleled.

Or, perhaps it is more accurate with women than men, but the phoniness which is more rampant in women in general makes it harder to decipher.

Or, more likely than any of this, is the notion that the wavelength theory proves less true than what I thought at the beginning of this rant, and that there are even fewer people who can get along with me than I thought.

Adapting

Written July 7th 2007, revised 2013

I’ve re-iterated the wavelength theory because although it seems like a nice idea for me, I’m not sure that in my narcissistic world that I’m actually capable of meeting anyone on the same wave as me.

I have suspicions that with time it’s possible I’ll adapt to people or they might be able to adapt to me, but for right now I’m probably too immature while simultaneously set in my own ways.

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Q&A: How Do I Talk My Girlfriend Out Of Getting A Dog?

Dear Juliette, I have been going out with my girlfriend for about six months and everything is going great with us. We live in separate places but I can see us moving in together in the future, maybe around six more months or so. A few days ago she told me she wants to get …

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4. Theodore: The Trial and Error Of a Solid Start and A Devastatingly Pre-emptive Sexual Comment

The Trial: Theodore was a suitor I met for once in the real world as opposed to online. He was a tall, hot, older surfer looking type but didn’t sound like a smoke-infused idiot. He was postering for a festival and started asking about our selection of sunglasses which he had bought from a couple …

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Q&A: I Love Someone Who Is Dating Someone Else

Dear Juliette, I truly love this lady but she is already dating someone else. My Dear Reader, This past week I gave my best friend the advice I am going to give you. She was interested in a guy she dated briefly a few years ago when she was hung up on someone else, so …

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The (Actual) Intimidated Boy Syndrome Theory – Written 2006, revised 2016

It took a few weeks to develop this theory because I guess I didn’t realize how rampant it was in my life and how simplistic and primitive the behaviour is until now. Generalizing is pretty easy when things seem to always turn out the same way but it wasn’t until recently that what I thought …

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Rules, Theories and Philosophies I Believe That You Should Believe About Dating, Friendships, Life and Love

impatience-final4.jpgThe etiquette and proper methods of attaining a woman like me. Starting with:

The Theories

Theories by definition, according to answers.com are:

  1. A set of statements or principles devised to explain a group of facts or phenomena, especially one that has been repeatedly tested or is widely accepted and can be used to make predictions about natural phenomena.
  2. The branch of a science or art consisting of its explanatory statements, accepted principles, and methods of analysis, as opposed to practice: a fine musician who had never studied theory.
  3. A set of theorems that constitute a systematic view of a branch of mathematics.
  4. Abstract reasoning; speculation: a decision based on experience rather than theory.
  5. A belief or principle that guides action or assists comprehension or judgment: staked out the house on the theory that criminals usually return to the scene of the crime.
  6. An assumption based on limited information or knowledge; a conjecture.

The Wavelength Theory                                                          2005

The Wavelength Theory rides on the same notion as finding people who are your “type”. But rather than dumbing it down to appearances, musical interest or what we do for a living, it is about being at a level of confidence, emotional and psychological maturity, and views on priorities. This became clear to me when I was meeting people I didn’t seem to have much in common with but who I found intensely interesting and easy to get along with. People who have common interests and/or problems with meeting people and identifying with the regular joes of the world tend to be on the same wavelength as me, because we think in the same margins of human equality. For example, I usually like people who complain about disrespectful or ignorant humans, but I’m not limited to it and it has nothing to do with the way we live other than maybe our upbringing.

The Wavelength has also to do with a feeling of being in a higher state of consciousness than most people. The state of consciousness is a notion of being true to oneself and standing by one’s convictions. It probably sounds pretentious, but they are in fact two very hard traits to find. I am often fooled into thinking I meet people on the wavelength and given my romantic aspirations, I often get excited too quickly and am sorely disappointed. But I think that glitch in my life has been rectified. I have been having issues in the past few years with instantly falling in love when I met someone who seemed to have the same kind of ideas as me about the world, and being completely disappointed when I realize it was all pretty much a sham. I realized that if I tell my ideas to people, they tend to agree with them because the ethics of how I see things are admirable and exciting to new people who are interested in me. Most people although find the ideas admirable, don’t actually live by them. So once this truth of their lack of conviction is revealed, it appears to me as a lie which is a blatant faux-pas in my Code of Ethics, hence the difficulty in finding equals.

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Q&A: When Is It OK To Stop Using Condoms In A Monogamous Relationship?

Dear Juliette, I have been dating a girl exclusively for two months and she still insists on using condoms even though she is on the pill. I think she is being paranoid. When is it ok to stop using condoms in a committed monogamous relationship? My Dear Reader, I think that in each individual relationship …

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